Welcome to Missed connection Mondays!
What is it? This is the series we run after events, so if there was someone you liked but didn’t quite manage to get their contact info, we can try to connect you both. We update the blog on Mondays so keep an eye out….
How do I post one? You can fill out this form and after each event we will shout it out on here. If they then want to be connected and get in touch with us, we will share your contact info with them, however, we have some rules:
I think I’ve been shouted out! How do I connect? Please email the awesome Dillan at dillan@haystack-dating.com with the subject line “Missed Connection” & copy and paste the entry below that you believe is shouting you out into the email, and we will put you in touch 😊
Our big rule: No response is a response. If someone doesn’t come forward and give consent we cannot & will not try to contact them for you in any other way (we take safety and boundaries very seriously).
LAST UPDATED: TUESDAY 11TH AUGUST 5PM (the missed connections are posted in date order. after 1 month we delete the entry)
London BBK – 31st July
Toby would like to connect with Molly
About Molly
You had brown hair and were wearing a red dress. You told me that you work at the Paddington Bear Experience.
About Toby
I had bleached hair, was wearing an earring and a tie, and mentioned that I also like musical theatre.
Harvey would like to connect with Holly
About Holly
You were sitting at table 33 and were wearing a floral dress. I remember thinking that you were really funny.
About Harvey
I was the person who accidentally called you old during our conversation.
Tejas would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
The main thing I remember about you is the interesting fact that was printed on your sheet for the group activity: you had a bullet scar.
About Tejas
We were on the same table during the second round of the group activity, but we were sitting at opposite ends, so we did not get much opportunity to talk. I was wearing a white shirt and was sitting at the other end of the table from you. I wanted to connect with you, but we had to move on to the third round of activities, and afterwards I could not find you for the rest of the event. The main detail I still remember is your fun fact about having a bullet scar.
Arvind would like to connect with Veneka
About Veneka
You had long black hair and were wearing a blue patterned dress.
About Arvind
I had short black hair and was wearing a white shirt when we were on table 17 during the final round. We spoke about your love of Bad Bunny and about you finding a new Reggaeton dance class. I also managed to get approval from your friend who was wearing the red dress!
Rebecca would like to connect with Joe
About Joe
I think your name was Joe, and I jokingly referred to you as Bradley Cooper.
About Rebecca
We were chatting later in the evening and reminiscing about nights out at O’Neills. I also embarrassed myself when I got mixed up about which celebrity we would invite on a date!
“I thought we had a laugh, but I completely chickened out when it came to asking for your number. So, if posting on the missed connections page is somehow less daunting… here goes.”
Jayden would like to connect with Lucy
About Lucy
You had long, dark brown hair and a memorable smile. We met at our first table, table 13, where we were sitting next to each other and seemed to bond straight away. Unfortunately, I only had a short amount of time with you before you moved on to your next table, while I had to stay at table 13 for the whole night.
About Jayden
I was the person with glasses and dark brown hair who was wearing a white T-shirt and sitting next to you at our first table. We bonded over the prompts we had been given. Yours was about your surprising third nipple, which the whole table found hilarious, and mine was about my band. I was really happy to hear that you were into my music!
Kim would like to connect with Adam
About Adam
You were one of the event reps on the night and told me that you work as a fighter jet pilot. You were also the person encouraging me to play table tennis instead of joining my table.
About Kim
I am petite and blonde and was wearing cream trousers with a black strappy top. I was the person who decided to play table tennis instead of joining my table.
Sergiu would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
You were in group 20 during the second round. You had blonde, slightly curly hair, were wearing pink lipstick and were sitting opposite me.
About Sergiu
I was at tables 10, 20 and 23 during the evening and introduced myself as Serg, which is short for Sergiu. I have dark brown hair that I usually wear slightly spiked, and I was wearing a grey T-shirt, black cargo trousers and black trainers. My interesting fact on the activity sheet was that I had achieved enlightenment.
Ellie would like to connect with Robert
About Robert
You had brown hair and were wearing a green shirt. You were brought over to join our third table a little late and managed to go about ten minutes before actually telling us your name.
About Ellie
I have brown hair and a Brummie accent, and I was wearing a brown top with a white skirt. I would love to connect with you!
Alex would like to connect with Lucy
About Lucy
I think your name was Lucy. You had fairly long dark brown hair, blue eyes and were wearing a black dress. We were not in the same group, but we chatted a couple of times during the evening and unfortunately never got the chance to have a proper conversation.
About Alex
I was the person with slightly spiky brown hair who was wearing a white shirt with green and blue stripes. I complimented your dress and told you that you looked fantastic. I genuinely meant it, and I am hoping that our conversation might have made enough of an impression for you to remember me.
“As I say, I couldn’t fully remember your name. I just remember that you had a great smile and were phenomenally good looking!”
John would like to connect with Julia
About Julia
You had curly blonde hair and were wearing a lovely summer dress that caught my attention during the evening. You are American, and we chatted briefly before moving to our individual tables. You were on table 22 first and then moved to table 19.
About John
I introduced myself to you as JP. I was wearing a short-sleeved top with khaki chino trousers, and I remember telling you how much I liked your accent. We exchanged a few glances and smiles while we were sitting at tables 19 and 18. You left early, so I did not get the chance to exchange numbers with you, but I would love to get in touch and buy you a coffee sometime.
“Julia, if you get this message, please get in touch by any means. Give me a text and let’s have a date. 😘”
Will would like to connect with Amanda
About Amanda
We sat together at our first table, which I think was group 21. Your interesting fact was that you were a professional swimmer.
About Will
I was wearing a blue cap and a Rolling Stones polo shirt. We spoke about the countries we’ve visited with the best food.
“The first 30 minutes flew past 😅 I couldn’t find you at the end of the night, and it would be great if we could continue chatting.”
John would like to connect with Julia
About Julia
You’re American, with curly blonde hair. You were on table 22 first and then, I believe, table 19.
About John
I’m John. I was on table 3 and then table 18. I wore a white sleeved top and khaki chino trousers. We crossed paths before moving to our individual tables but didn’t get the chance to meet again afterwards. I mentioned that I work in defence engineering.
“Julia, I would love to buy you a coffee and get to know you.”
Sofia would like to connect with Robert
About Robert
You were tall and brunette, wearing a khaki shirt. We chatted about my love of theatre and your love of cinema. You’re currently training in corporate law. I’ve decided how I would use that one wish and would love to let you know. I missed my chance at the end because I didn’t want to interrupt another conversation, and then you were nowhere to be seen.
About Sofia
I’m short, with dark curly hair, glasses and lots of tattoos on my arms. I was wearing a dark grey top. I go on lots of solo dates, but maybe we could change that? I work as a sommelier in a theatre and am mad about my favourite musical, which I’ve seen lots of times. We sat together for our second group date at table 37 but barely spoke to anyone else besides each other.
Newcastle Fayre Play – 30th July
Katherine would like to connect with Daniel
About Daniel
You were part of table 1 during the first half of the event and came along with a friend. You work as a primary school teacher, and your fun fact mentioned polydactyly.
About Katherine
I had curly pink hair and was wearing a black top with a brown animal-print skirt. I was the only woman sitting at the table.
James would like to connect with Emma
About Emma
You had long black hair and glasses. Your answer on the getting-to-know-you form was that you were a crazy cat lady.
About James
I’m James, and I had long hair tied in a ponytail or man bun.
Leeds Carousel – 30th July
Laura would like to connect with Ollie
About Ollie
You had impressive dark hair and were very tall, possibly around six feet.
About Laura
You introduced yourself to me while we were playing shuffleboard, and I completely froze and did not know what to say. I probably came across like a bit of a weirdo!
Carl would like to connect with Rachel
About Rachel
You were around 5’3″ tall and had shortish, light brown hair. I think you were wearing All Star trainers and what looked like a dark blazer. You seemed a little shy and had come to the event with three friends. After playing netball and air hockey, you mentioned a few times that you were feeling warm and a little sweaty. We all eventually ended up in the karaoke rooms and had a great time together.
About Carl
I am around 5’7″ tall, with short dark brown hair and a stocky build. I was wearing a blue short-sleeved shirt, jeans and blue Nike Air Max trainers. I remember reassuring you that it was completely understandable to feel warm after playing some of the activities. We also took turns singing in the karaoke rooms and had a lot of fun.
“Nothing else. That’s all the interaction we had. We were in different groups.”
Josh would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
You had ginger hair and were an excellent dancer, especially when it came to the ⬆️⬇️➡️⬅️ moves.
About Josh
I was the person who considered himself the best darts player there.
Ray would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
We were in the karaoke room together, where you sang Penny Arcade among several other songs. Penny Arcade particularly stood out to me because of the personal connection you mentioned having to the song. You had brunette hair with blonde streaks and a tattoo on your collarbone, and you were wearing a black top with black-and-white trousers.
About Ray
I was the person wearing a black shirt and blue jeans, with long curly hair, who sang My Way. You shook my hand afterwards, and I wanted to carry on talking to you, but I could not find you again after you left the room.
Thomas would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
You had long brown hair and were wearing a blue top with what I think were jeans. You were curvy and pretty.
About Thomas
I do not think you stayed at the event for very long. I only saw you once, and when I tried to find you again later, you seemed to have already left.
Laura would like to connect with Jordan
About Jordan
You’re 33, bald and were wearing a red T-shirt.
About Laura
I’m the ginger teacher. We played darts together, but you ran away when we moved on to karaoke!
Cardiff Ludo – 30th July
Laura would like to connect with Rhys
About Rhys
You were at the event with your friend Tom, who was using a wheelchair.
About Laura
I am blonde with brown eyes, and I was wearing a green top with high-waisted jeans.
Jodie would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
You are from Blackwood and have dark hair and a beard. You told me that you have two children and work in a role connected in some way to climate change. I am fairly sure that you were wearing a navy shirt. We spoke about our children and about my dog, and you also mentioned that you knew one of the event organisers.
About Jodie
I have long dark hair and was wearing a green or khaki playsuit. I approached you and your friend while you were sitting at a quieter table before the structured part of the evening began.
London Boulebar – 24th July
Jessica would like to connect with Arthur
About Arthur
You had blue eyes, light blonde-brown hair and were around 5’11”.
About Jessica
We were on lanes 9 and 10. I was the one with the quick wit!
Northern Hannah would like to connect with Mystery Man
About Mystery Man
You were tall, fair-haired and French! We only spoke briefly as I was leaving the table you were joining for the second session. You had never been north of Norwich, so I offered for my mum to show you around my hometown of York…
About Northern Hannah
I’m short and brunette and was wearing a bright pink top on tables 13 and 14.
Liam would like to connect with Palvi
About Palvi
You sat at tables 9 and 10 during the second round. You had dark hair, wore blue, were Indian-American and worked freelance in marketing.
About Liam
We both sat at tables 9 and 10 during the second round. I talked a lot about the weird and wonderful theatre shows I had seen recently, as well as new technology called Auracast. I was the tall white man with glasses, short brown hair, a blue corduroy jacket and a white T-shirt.
Liam would like to connect with Elspeth
About Elspeth
You’re a civil servant and were wearing a red bandana. You had one piece of curly brown hair falling in front of your face that you kept having to brush away throughout the evening.
About Liam
I was the white man with glasses, short brown hair, a white T-shirt and a dark blue corduroy jacket. We talked loads about French music and seeing The Odyssey in IMAX!
Darren would like to connect with Izzy
About Izzy
You’re a performing arts teacher.
About Darren
I was on table 1 and said sorry for the person who was in the wrong place.
The Krav Maga One would like to connect with Kit and Kat’s Dad
About Kit and Kat’s Dad
We chatted multiple times throughout the evening, mostly in small groups, including about your two kittens, Kit and Kat, the horrendous price of wood, bouldering, Parkrun and the tattoo of your happy place on your forearm.
What stood out to me was how comfortable you made everyone feel. You somehow became the person people gravitated towards for a chat because you were warm, funny and welcoming. I realised afterwards that, despite chatting a few times, I never caught your name.
Maybe we could swap the busy dating event for a quieter chat over coffee sometime.
About the Krav Maga One
I have long blonde hair and was wearing a long burgundy skirt with a black top. My fun fact was that I met my best friends by punching them at Krav Maga. We also chatted about me recently starting bouldering and my plan to go to Parkrun the next morning. I also mentioned my very needy adopted stray tomcat, whose excitement about food led to a trip to A&E.
Matt would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
You were around 6 feet tall with blonde hair and had a very cool job that I asked an embarrassing number of questions about. We were chatting just before you left with your friends, but I think I messed up and mistyped my number into your phone because I didn’t receive a call on mine.
About Matt
I’m around 6 feet tall with brown hair and was wearing a blue shirt. I was the one who asked an embarrassing number of questions.
Birmingham Golf Fang – 23rd July
Danny would like to connect with Ellie
About Ellie
Your interesting fact was that you were running an Ironman soon. You were in Area 2 on the night, and I last saw you talking to a guy called Tom, so I never got the chance to get your details afterwards. You had brown hair.
About Danny
I was also in Area 2. I’m the blonde lad who came with his friend, and my interesting fact was about me nearly being in 9/11. You’ll probably know who I am after that! We spoke about how we both work with children.
Michael would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
I started at hole 1 with three women. You were wearing a blue dress.
About Michael
I was wearing a black and brown jacket with black trousers.
“Yes.”
Hardeep would like to connect with Emily
About Emily
You play rugby and train in CrossFit. I was in golf group 3, and you were in the group behind me. You had brown hair, were wearing a white sleeveless top and were quite muscular. I think you may have been in golf group 5. We were both in the groups that started at 7:30 and played golf first.
About Hardeep
I was wearing a grey T-shirt. I’m muscular, Indian, work in finance and am terrible at golf.
Aleksander would like to connect with Sam
About Sam
You introduced yourself as Sam and were in the same group as me at golf hole 5. You were short and petite, with ginger hair and glasses.
About Aleksander
I was also at golf hole 5. I was wearing black jeans, a red shirt and glasses. I told you that I played football when I was younger.
The Singing One would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
You started at golf hole 7, were wearing a blue shirt and work as an engineer. You’re from Codsall and have five nieces and nephews.
About the Singing One
I sang! That should identify me pretty quickly…
“We walked to the train together.”
Boulebar Southbank – 26th June
Alex would like to connect with Stuart
About Stuart
You were tall with dark hair and lived in Hertfordshire or Herefordshire. You had recently attended a dating event involving a walk in Regent’s Park.
About Alex
I was wearing a checked dress and had a light-up Disney-themed electric fan. We discussed famous people we knew or had connections to. We chatted again in a group later in the evening, and then my friend in the moon boot joined us.
Helen would like to connect with Stuart
About Stuart
You were quite tall, with brown hair and a beard, wearing a white shirt or top and khaki-coloured trousers. You mentioned that you lived in Hertfordshire and worked in sustainable energy.
About Helen
I’m 5’3″, mixed Filipino and British, with dark hair. I was wearing a cap, a brown patterned top and cream shorts. We chatted twice during the evening. The second time, I couldn’t remember your name, and you gave me the clue that there was a film featuring a mouse with the same name. I guessed Mickey Mouse, and you had to explain that it was actually Stuart Little 😄
“You put your number into my phone, but it unfortunately seems to be missing a digit! I’m hoping it was an innocent typo rather than a rejection strategy 😅 If you are the Stuart in question and are still interested, I’d love to hear from you.”
Substation Brixton – 27th June
Nina would like to connect with Ed
About Ed
We started climbing together in group 5. You had just moved to New Cross, and we talked about buying a house being a nightmare, especially sofas! We both worked at the Department of Energy at the same time.
About Nina
I had short, curly brown hair and was wearing a red sleeveless top. I live in Walthamstow and work in renewable energy. We had a really nice chat, but then I went to get some water and couldn’t find you again. I think you left early! It would be great to catch up 🙂
Leopard Print Lady would like to connect with Lecky
About Lecky
You were around 6’2″, worked as a radiologist and were wearing a sleeveless vest.
About Leopard Print Lady
I was the person wearing leopard print.
“It would be fun to climb together.”
Box Bar Manchester – 19th June
Alex would like to connect with Chloe
About Chloe
You had brown hair and were wearing a brown-grey top. We played shuffleboard, and I was judging all of your shots 👀
About Alex
I have black hair and was wearing a cream jacket and grey jeans. I have a bit of a husky voice.
Poovendan would like to connect with Chloe
About Chloe
You were initially in Area 1 and later joined me in Area 3. You had loose hair, were wearing a sleeveless top and had black nail polish 🖤 You work as a nurse in a hospital 🏥 Your fun fact was that you had previously appeared on a TV game show 📺
You enjoy travelling ✈️ and have visited Australia, New Zealand — which you preferred 🇳🇿 — and Sri Lanka, where you particularly liked the mountains ⛰️ We chatted about travel, and I showed you some places from my hometown in India on Google Maps 📍 We also played shuffle together, and I taught you how to play 🎯
About Poovendan
I was the person in Area 3 wearing a grey long-sleeved T-shirt, blue jeans and black-and-white shoes 👕👖👟 I’m originally from India 🇮🇳 and now live in the UK 🇬🇧 I work in finance 💼 and had recently been in Chester 📍
You might remember me as the person who taught you how to play shuffle 🎯 and was probably a little too confident about being the top shuffle player there 😄 We got along really well, and I was about to ask for your contact details before you disappeared 🙈
“If this sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you 😊 I really enjoyed our conversation and our shuffle game, and I regretted not asking for your contact details sooner. No pressure at all — I just thought I’d take a chance and see if this finds you. Good luck either way! 🍀”
Boulebar Spitalfields London – 19th June
Carol would like to connect with Arthur
About Arthur
You’re French and were wearing a black T-shirt and off-white trousers. You lived in the UAE for a short time. Your go-to karaoke song is Bet On It from High School Musical.
About Carol
I was wearing a white skirt and a red off-the-shoulder top. I work at a gym and have also lived in the UAE. My go-to karaoke song is Super Bass by Nicki Minaj.
“You actually saved your number in my phone as ‘Arthur Bet On It’, but I think you made a mistake because the WhatsApp photo definitely isn’t you. I don’t believe you would have given me a false number!”
Kate would like to connect with Arthur
About Arthur
You were wearing a black top and cream trousers. You’re from a village in France where everyone plays pétanque for two hours every summer evening, so you were a bit of a pro and very patiently explained the rules to everyone. You had a very long job title, have lived in London for eight years and now live in Bethnal Green.
About Kate
I was wearing a black top and blue trousers. I work in publishing and am based in Mile End. I had surprising success throwing and rolling underarm rather than using the correct pétanque method.
Bermondsey Bar & Kitchen – 12th June
Hester would like to connect with Liam
About Liam
You’re Irish, work as a fitness coach and we had good craic.
About Hester
I had brown hair and sunglasses and told you the backstory behind my nickname. We were on the same table during the first round.
Emma would like to connect with Nick
About Nick
You’re a Liverpool fan, were wearing a hat and may be part of a running club.
About Emma
I was the only woman on the table.
“I really enjoyed your vibe and our chat, so I wanted to see whether you fancied swapping details!”
Box Bar Manchester – 29th May
Poovendan would like to connect with Chloe
About Chloe
You were initially in Area 1 and later joined me in Area 3. You had loose hair, were wearing a sleeveless top and had black nail polish 🖤 You work as a nurse in a hospital 🏥 Your fun fact was that you had previously appeared on a TV game show 📺
You enjoy travelling ✈️ and have visited Australia, New Zealand — which you preferred 🇳🇿 — and Sri Lanka, where you particularly liked the mountains ⛰️ We chatted about travel, and I showed you some places from my hometown in India on Google Maps 📍 We also played shuffle together, and I taught you how to play 🎯 We got along well 😊
About Poovendan
I was the person in Area 3 wearing a grey long-sleeved T-shirt, blue jeans and black-and-white shoes 👕👖👟 I’m originally from India 🇮🇳 and now live in the UK 🇬🇧 I work in finance 💼 and had recently been in Chester 📍
You might remember me as the person who taught you how to play shuffle 🎯 and was probably a little too confident about being the top shuffle player there 😄 We got along really well, and I was about to ask for your contact details before you disappeared 🙈
“If this sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you 😊 I really enjoyed our conversation and our shuffle game, and I regretted not asking for your contact details sooner. No pressure at all — I just thought I’d take a chance and see if this finds you. Good luck either way! 🍀”
Alex would like to connect with Chloe
About Chloe
You had brown hair, and I think you were wearing a brown-green top.
About Alex
I was playing shuffleboard with you and judging your shots. I was wearing a cream jacket and a black T-shirt.
London – 8th May
Gemma would like to connect with Mystery Person
About Mystery Person
I think your name may have been Dom, but I’m not completely sure 🙏🏻🤣 You were lovely on the night. I think you were part of Lucy’s team or one of the event representatives.
About Gemma
I was wearing all white and had a short bob and blue eyes.
If you believe you’re mentioned above and would like to be connected, please email dillan@haystack-dating.com with the subject line “Missed Connection” & copy and paste the entry below that you believe is shouting you out into the email, and we will put you in touch x
Also, if you’ve been connected via missed connections, we’d absolutely love to hear how it’s going, it makes us so happy to hear your guys’ stories.